One parent once asked me how we cope with so many toddlers when she can’t even manage just two. Children are often as good as gold when they are in school but the moment mum walks through the door at the end of the school day, it is a different picture entirely.
I know you will probably agree with me that children can be a lot smarter than we often give them credit for. One of the tricks young ones have up their sleeve is the use of tantrums or uncontrollable behaviour to declare their authority and get their own way. Take for example just two of the many scenarios we at Tumble Tots have encountered which I am sure most parents can relate to…. Read on…..
Scenario 1: Little Ayo, a 3-year-old has been putting his shoes on and taking them off appropriately for various activities in school during the day. Mum arrives to pick him up at the end of the school day and he rushes out of the TV room totally neglecting to put on his shoes. He runs around uncontrollably and ignores his mum’s pleas to wear his shoes so they can head home.
Scenario 2: Simi is at home, she wakes up first thing in the morning and wants a Ribena and her favourite TV programme switched on. Mum ignores her request until she has a meltdown. She cries and wails then mum instructs her nanny to give her a Ribena, put on the T.V. Thereafter, all is quiet. Simi has never had a tantrum in school. She has her Ribena at the regular snack time with everyone else and TV does not go on until the day’s activities are over and she has had her lunch.
What can we do to help our children become more manageable without swinging the rod, shouting and getting exhausted with managing them?
Many children develop tantrums as early as 18 months old. There is a lot we can do to minimize these and help our children and of course, ensure our peace. Firstly and most importantly, if children get the message that their shouting, screaming and tears will get them what they want, they will just use the tactic all the time. We in the adult world use different methods and call it influence! Younger children with limited speech often use tantrums to make their requests known or seek for the attention they desire. Because it’s easier to give in and keep our peace, we give them what they want and they learn early that it works!
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